My official position on gay marriage:

Has been summed up by the first commenter on this post. Says Little Italian:

Call ‘em all civil unions and let God sort them out.

I think it was a mistake allowing the redundancy of both church and State "marriages". Let the church have one definition and let it be entirely spiritual. Let the state have one and let it be entirely legal. Sure most people will have to get both, but it allows equal treatment of homosexuals from a legal perspective, and preservation of the church's theology and social perrogatives (keeping in mind, different churches are allowed differenttheologies and perrogatives). Marriage the sacrament is different than marriage the contract.

Separation of church and state...someone should have thought of that a while ago.